Let me tell you about my


He is the best part of me.

My adopted son Kyle is eight years old. He is a product of babies having babies. I was there the day he was born. He came into this world with little or no hope of surviving. The doctor’s plan for him was to let him “terminate”. He would never cry, walk, talk or be productive. All that soon changed. With nothing more than determination to give this child a chance of life, I set out to prove what appeared to be logical: that this small bit of life would someday be everything the doctors said he would not.

The first year was difficult, to say the least. I quit a high paying job with a secure company, sold my beautiful home and gathered up what I had to move from Nevada to Florida. I was meeting one of the best doctors in the United States and he would be one of many people that would change my life as I knew it.

The surgeries began . . . one right after another. Then the rehabilitation started. It took years for us to see any type of improvement. Then at the young age of five, this child took his first step, he said his first word, tasted food for the first time and things began to unfold quickly. He now talks, walks, runs and does the things that normal children do. I worked this little boy hard; I still do but, now I see that it is his determination that keeps me going. Together we have made a difference and together we will continue to make a difference. There are no problems in life; everything is a situation and all the people that have stepped up to the plate to make a difference in this world realize that. Every situation can be overcome. I am reminded of this every time I hear Mark Willis’ song “Don’t Laugh at Me.” He explains it from a point of view that many people don’t want to hear or see.

I think that sometimes people would just like to pretend that these children with special needs don’t exist, that they would just go away and I enjoy putting my son in their face. He is real, he is alive and most important, he has survived in a world where doctors said he would not. I am proud to be an American where I can give my child and children like him a chance. This is what life is all about. It is not the big house in Las Vegas, or the secure job that paid the large salary. It is the baby steps which make the biggest impact on our lives. It is making a difference in someone’s life. Every time we help someone we really are helping our society to become a better place for all of us to live. The environment can change and it begins with one person who has the knowledge, strength, hope and desire to make a difference. I will not sit back and wait for the world I live in to change. I will be a part of that change. If not me, who would it be? I can’t wait for you to answer. There is too much work to be done and one of us must do it. Hopefully, our paths will cross again and you will be a part of turning this world around, to become a more caring, nurturing and compassionate place. If we must stand up and fight for something, let us all stand together and fight for what will be the beginning to the end. Join me in saving the children of today, for they are the future of tomorrow.

Debby Willits -- 2005